My son is 13 and he too, LOVES anything to do with fire. I say cut him some slack since he didn't lie or pitch fits and yet or protest ridiculously at your drug testing. It's a boy thing, maybe just an age thing. That I'm going to come up with something memorable so that the next time he "comes across" a stray lighter, he clearly remembers that this is a non-allowed item and isn't tempted to take it and hide it. So.why the heck did he have a lighter? I've talked to other guys about this in the past and most of them say "yeah, it's a normal boy thing we had them just to have them." Is that true? Is this just a normal, age-appropriate vice?įinally.what would you do for a consequence? I've told him that something is coming but that I had to think about it. I did get an at-home drug test this afternoon (I had always said that if I found any paraphernalia, including lighters, that I would test them immediately so I had to follow through on that) and he took it and is clean.
He is also pretty grossed out at the smell of smoke and avoids friends houses that smell of it. I'm 99.9% sure he has never smoked cigarettes because I am very sensitive to cigarette smoke and can smell it a mile away. So I don't think he's a secret fire starter, which bring up the question of why else would a boy have a lighter? I asked him what he thought parents might assume when finding a hidden lighter and he said "that the kid is smoking something," which is what I was getting at. This is the second time this happened - I think the last time was a year ago or longer, when my husband found the remnants of a burnt piece of Kleenex in the bathroom sink, which my son admitted to burning "just to see what would happen." Other than the Kleenex, I have never witnessed or heard of him setting anything on fire and while we do have a fire pit, he doesn't seem to have a fascination with it.
My husband found a cigarette lighter hiding in my oldest son's (age 14) pillowcase.